I love Netflix’s House of Cards and particularly the lead character Frank Underwood.

But don’t for one minute think that he is a good person – he’s a shocker! He’s very prepared to turn on anyone in pursuit of his ambition.

But last night I found myself shouting at him: “That’s it Frank! That’s exactly it!”

Don’t laugh – shouting advice and encouragement and even scorn when appropriate at my favourite TV characters just so happens to be one of the ways in which I de-stress.

So what had Frank done to deserve my wild enthusiasm?

He and a colleague were busy with one or other nefarious plot and his colleague was expressing her reservations.

And Frank, ever so coolly, turns to her and says:

“You’re thinking about where we are instead of where we’re headed.”

And that’s it! That’s exactly it!

We spend too much time focussing on where we are instead of looking to where we want to be. Now this applies to ANY situation.

You might be thinking, particularly if you are in an abusive relationship, that it doesn’t apply to you, but it does.

As difficult as what it may appear to be, when we focus on our current situation we attract more of our current situation.

Rather focus on where you want to be in six months’ time.

How do you focus? By planning for it!

Start identifying what you will need to be able to create your abuse free life and start working towards getting those things.

Stop thinking about where you are and start thinking about where you are headed.

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