WHY THE ‘I HAVEN’T GOT MONEY’ EXCUSE JUST DOESN’T CUT IT

I’m speaking to all the women who say “I haven’t got money” and expect that to be an acceptable excuse to justify staying where they are. Now, while I am specifically speaking to women in abusive relationships, it is only because my experience with this lesson comes from abusive relationships – mine and my client’s. […]

FRANK’S WORDS OF WISDOM

I love Netflix’s House of Cards and particularly the lead character Frank Underwood. But don’t for one minute think that he is a good person – he’s a shocker! He’s very prepared to turn on anyone in pursuit of his ambition. But last night I found myself shouting at him: “That’s it Frank! That’s exactly […]

ARE YOU CALMING YOURSELF OR ARE YOU CALMING THE STORM?

I came across this quote of Timber Hawkeye’s earlier today and it struck me as being so relevant to all those women who are still stuck in an abusive relationship. And of course, after I started thinking about it I realised it could be applied to a variety of different situations but with this article, […]

Pushy? Who, me? Never!

  I’ve been accused of being many things in my life. Pushy is one of them. And I’m always surprised, because when somebody says to me “you’re so pushy!”, it always sounds like it’s a bad thing to be. And frankly I don’t get that. I believe there is nothing wrong with being clear on […]

How Jack Reacher Reminded Me to Keep Looking Forward

I know from personal experience how difficult it can be, when you are stuck in a hell-on-earth relationship, to look to the future and see anything worthwhile. Actually, that’s not quite right, because when I was married to my abuser I was not able to even think about the future, never mind actually trying to […]

Are you struggling to leave your hell-on-earth relationship and stay left?

In January of 2007 I finally left my husband of ten years for the last time. The average woman in an abusive relationship leaves her abuser 7 times before she finally leaves him for good. Clearly, I’m above average. It only took me 6 times. The first time I left him was after he pushed […]